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Did You Really Want To Take “Her” Place?

“I’m walking into her life, like what?” I seriously doubt any female or male for that matter has this type of mindset.Hell,  I could be wrong. Last year  sidelines, side chicks, and side ninjas were at their all time high. Every song on the radio encouraged it. All the reality and some scripted shows glorified it. Cheaters were living it up and getting shout outs for their behaviors.

Taking another woman’s place isn’t always the reason in these type of situations. It’s definitely not okay to enter this type of scenario but shit happens. In most cases both parties are missing something. Such as affection, communication, attention, appreciation and acknowledgment. When you’re having problems within your relationship you tend to gravitate to those that are fulfilling those needs. You begin to feel whole again and Hearing from this person becomes a need .Unfortunately you also become dependent on this type of attention. Time to face reality, You’re cheating!

When she comes across someone who listens, understand and offers advice it seems innocent. You both are able to share information about what’s going on in your current relationships. In hopes to get better understanding. Hey whats better than getting advice from someone of the opposite sex right?

Speaking from experience, I never wanted to get out of my relationship and move in on hers. I wasn’t interested in having no more than what we had. For one karma is a bitch. Tables do turn and why would the next female (ME) be exempt? Two, I wanted my relationship to work out believe it or not. I got emotionally caught up with someone from my past and was wrong. At times I wish I could turn back time and fix the mess it caused in between. But you live and you learn. Everything that glitters ain’t always gold!

Wanting to take her place was never the case, we do some dumb ass shit to satisfy our selfish ass needs. In return we hurt the people we love, that love us and fuck up a potentially good friendship. If we worked as hard as we did stepping outside our relationship. We could work twice as hard at rekindling what we have at home.

Be Careful What You Ask For

Is this sacrifice really worth it? Why are our men and women choosing a temporary feeling over their Families, Heart and Dignity?

It’s time we grow up the hell up and let go of things that are mentally and emotionally holding us back. For starters stop getting caught up in unreal situations, that you may have to lie your way out of. Many of us are diving head first by seeking attention outside of our relationships. We’ve been given a platform that allows us to stay connected to old friends, old flames and old history. One simple click, friend request, email, inbox or DM can lead to unnecessary “situationships”. We’re so engrossed with how the next person moves, how they’re living, and who they’re with. Unknowingly you began to wonder what if? Sadly enough these false feelings are affecting our vision and actions. It seems as though we’re okay with sacrificing our Families, Heart and Dignity for a temporary emotion.

Just don’t get to caught up because your girl  Karma will come right along and smack you dead in the face.




No More Restrictions 

For the last few hours I’ve been trying to get to a place where I can write what I feel without any restrictions. For most of my life I’ve catered to everyone else’s feelings and opinions. As I brainstorm on how not to step on anyone’s toes or hurting anyone’s ego. I feel it’s time I write my truths, and allow my readers to get inspired by my rights while learning from where I went wrong.