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To Change Your Life, You Need To Change Your Priorities 

Last year I thought I was living it up. I went to every major concert that came to my city, I was hanging out more, taking my kids on vacations, but I put setting up our future on the back burner.

I did nothing but work, pay bills take care of the kids and repeated the cycle. I wanted to have fun. Hell, I had a ball. But I didn’t have my priorities together. I was just living life, but not planning a future for my family.

Looking myself in the mirror made realize, that time waits for no one. Every year we’re getting older and taking life for granted. We post our happening all over social media for what? Comments and acknowledgement? Wouldn’t earning a degree, starting a business and having college funds for your children feel like you did something? You can’t be proud of temporary things. You should be proud of something your children and children’s, children can benefit from in life. Have a legacy. Show them your work ethics and the benefits you all received from them. Being a ” Bad Bitch” ain’t it. Being “His Bad Bitch” ain’t it either. You have to want more.Stop letting these Love and Hip Hop type characters fool you. There are a few on the show that’s really doing the damn thing. But unfortunately too many of us are looking past them and are paying attention to the ones that want a come up. You have to grind for your come up. Make a list of goals and achieve them.

But who am I to give out advice,  when I’m getting my shit together as well?

Be Careful What You Ask For

Is this sacrifice really worth it? Why are our men and women choosing a temporary feeling over their Families, Heart and Dignity?

It’s time we grow up the hell up and let go of things that are mentally and emotionally holding us back. For starters stop getting caught up in unreal situations, that you may have to lie your way out of. Many of us are diving head first by seeking attention outside of our relationships. We’ve been given a platform that allows us to stay connected to old friends, old flames and old history. One simple click, friend request, email, inbox or DM can lead to unnecessary “situationships”. We’re so engrossed with how the next person moves, how they’re living, and who they’re with. Unknowingly you began to wonder what if? Sadly enough these false feelings are affecting our vision and actions. It seems as though we’re okay with sacrificing our Families, Heart and Dignity for a temporary emotion.

Just don’t get to caught up because your girl  Karma will come right along and smack you dead in the face.




Social Media Distorts Reality and Corrupts Relationships 

Social media has opened up a can of worms. Headaches, breakups, makeups, trust issues, behavior problems in children, insecurities, and  mental disorders just to name a few. 

Back in the day  couples were snooping through each other’s call list, to see if their significant other was creeping. These days social media has given people the opportunity to reconnect with old friends, old flames and possible fuck buddies. This platform has made it easy to slide in someone else’s bed. A simple hello, has become an invitation to cheating.

Scenario #1 

Wifey checks her husband’s search engine and finds out he’s been searching the same chick on a daily basis. Red flag  Red flag!! Best believe she’s already too late. These two has been sliding in each other’s DM’s and Inbox for months. Hell you’d be lucky if he hadn’t slid into her box yet. This scenario hits on trust issues, insecurities, headaches and at times heartaches. 

Scenario #2

She takes over a hundred selfies until she’s satisfied with the best picture. Then she post it to achieve a great number of likes. She has no clue she’s seeking attention; Or maybe she does. In some cases she’s looking to boost her self – esteem while deminshing her self – worth. Now don’t get me wrong, taking selfies are cool. Hell they come out better than having someone else take your picture at times. But a lot of us get out of hand with it. We already know what you look like, why post a new picture every day? 

Scenario #3

Children are no longer being influenced by their parents or older siblings. It seems as though we’ve all become attention whores on social media. Your child may not be allowed on facebook, but the same videos are on YouTube, Snap Chat or other social media.

The internet/ social media has become our source of research and it’s sad. Since when is everything on facebook, instagram, YouTube, and the internet true?